Getting Through the Holidays

It is not easy at the holidays to be going through a big life-changing event.  You have to take it in stride and keep your head up and keep your feet moving in the right direction.  It is not going to be easy for me at Thanksgiving this year because Alexa will be with her dad and not with me.  It is going to be hard since this will be my first holiday without her with me and being that it is the first holiday that I have not been with my ex.  I do not think that I will ever get used to the fact that now I only get to see Alexa for half her life now that I have to split time with her dad.  I am very lucky that Alexa does have a dad that wants to be her in life.  I hate to hear about all the children that only get to be with one of their parents because the other parent does not want to be in their life.  I do not and will not ever be able to understand that.  I made sure that when I left that I found a house a close as possible to my ex so that I could see my daughter whenever I wanted to.  Life is all about change and making the best of life as it comes it you.  You are in control of who you are and who you want to be.  I cannot say it enough how you are the only person in control of your life.  Only you have the power to change what path you take and the way your life turns out.  Life is too short to be bitter and unhappy.  It is really important to be with family and friends at the holidays and be thankful for all the wonderful things that you have in your life.  I love thanksgiving; it is the best holiday.  There is nothing that is expected and no gifts to give.  It is just time to be thankful.  So I hope that this holiday season you take a moment to take a step back and enjoy the beauty in a smile from you family, a hug from your children, or a kind word from a friend.  I also want to realize that there is always some less fortunate and please be thankful for all that you have.